She ate one six ounce container of Yogurt for breakfast. That was the biggest breakfast in four days. Then she didn’t even eat the ice cream pie for supper.
I made the mistake of taking her blood pressure when she was lying in the bed this morning. I thought it would be up some since I restarted the Midodrine yesterday to see if we can reduce the fainting spells. Her BP measured 280/130. That is frighteningly high. Here is the kicker: twenty minutes later, while sitting at the table I measured it again. It was 95/75. In the mid-afternoon, while she was lying down, I took it again. It was 245/115.
Since we have few options, I plan to continue the Midodrine at some level. She has still been fainting, in fact there is a new twist. After being out for a while, twice shen stiffen like a board in a mild seizure-like event. She wouldn’t bend — in the middle or at the need. She was stretched out full length, locked in that position. It happened once when trying to get her back into bed. It happened a second time while on the toilet stool, dealing with a messy BM. The good news is neither did I become frustrated or get upset. I just laughed. I waited until the stiffness seemed to soften a bit and just picked her up and repositioned her.
I am tired of being upset about what is happening. It is time to just deal with it. I am grateful that our Daughter, Lisa, and Granddaughters, Abigail (7) and Ashlyn (5) arrived late in the afternoon. It has been good to see the girls and have Lisa to talk with. Just as Son Micah got to experience the challenge of bathroom duties on Monday, Lisa got to experience that challenge today. Mary Ann responded a bit a couple of times to Lisa. Whether she is able to respond or not, it is clearly meaningful for Mary Ann to have them here.
I did get to talk with someone on the Staff at the Senior Diagnostics Center at a local hosptial today. The person was a bit abrupt and on hearing that Mary Ann had been diagnosed with Lewy Body Dementia two or three years ago, she responded that LBD folks go quickly. While I do not wish to ignore the harsh reality of our situation, it was no fun to have it tossed in my face in such a matter of fact way. I explained the situation, adding that her vitals are still pretty good. She did not dismiss us out of hand, but seemed genuine in saying that she would check with the doctor and call us back tomorrow.
I have very low expectations of any meaningful option emerging when she calls back. There are some hints that the Midodrine raising her BP is allowing a little more mobility — at least for a few moments before fainting.
It was good to have an extra set of hands and arms when the heavy lifing came. Lisa was a CNA for some years while in high school. She ended up Administrator of a large multilayers facility for the older population. She has been parenting full time since the girls were born.
Tomorrow evening, Son Micah will join us as we look at the rapid developments these last few days.
There is more that I could say, but I am struggling to keep my eyes open. It is time to sleep.
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June 3, 2010 at 4:00 am
Wow… does she where special stocking during the day? this really helps… My father in law went to be with Jesus this evening. He too had those seizure like spells one really big one on Mothers Day. We had hospice 3 days. Looking back we realize that he was preparing for his final days. He stopped eating but just a few bites for about 1 1/2 weeks before his death. They stopped Sinamet the last 2 weeks and used adavan to calm him at night. The last 4 days clear of all meds since he could not swallow. Sunday his mind was finally clear & alert. It was so good to have just 1 day without sleeping or hallicinations even though he veriy could communicate. I praying for strength for you as you take every bend in this journey
June 3, 2010 at 9:16 am
Sue.
The Lord be with you and the family as you grieve his loss and celebrate his freedom.
The BP issue has been with us for many years. In a tilt table test years ago, when the table reached 70%, her BP dropped to 50/30. We talked about the stockings but we knew they were something that Mary Ann would not tolerate. She is extremely strong-willed (understatement). The Cardiologist doubted that they would be adequate to the task. I am still hoping to use the Midodrine, but at the moment today she is not taking anything including liquid. We are taking this hours at a time. We also would be grateful at any point for a day without hallucinations or sleep — not however looking forward to losing her. That part is not in our hands.
Peter
June 3, 2010 at 4:51 am
Dear, dear Pastor Pete…I am overwhelmed by the expression of TRUE love that you give and live. I know this…Mary Anne is blessed by you, by God through you. You are in my prayers and my thoughts, and I must also tell you how grateful I am that you share your thoughts and experiences. I read your words, and I am reading (in The Caring Bridge) the thoughts and words of a mother of five who I know, coping though her nine year old son’s shinbone cancer…and I must say that it puts my life in perspective. God bless you.
June 3, 2010 at 9:19 am
Thanks, Nancy.
June 3, 2010 at 9:39 pm
I shared with Louis your comments and told him Lisa and Micah were going to be with you to help you with all of your issues. He shook his head in sadness and said he understood you wanting her at home and not in a hospital or nursing facility. My heart aches for all of you and I will keep his comments in my heart for the time when we may need them. May God wrap you in His comforting arms and may you feel His wonderful breath in your spirits….all of you,your children, your children by marriage and your beautiful granddaughters. And most importantly if it is her time, she will leave this failing eaethly body and transform, in a heartbeat, into her beautiful heavely body, and in reality isn’t that the desire of the hearts of those of us that know His wonderful, wonderful love.