Before you worry, I am not hopelessly burned out.  Yes, I did not ace this quiz.  It would seem to me that it would be necessary for me to be completely delusional and entrenched in a state of denial, not to fail this quiz.  People who are doing full time caregiving with someone suffering from any form of dementia have to face down their limitations and name the feelings as they experience them.  That is the only way to actually stay healthy.  To be perfectly calm and in control would be utter madness.  The quiz does provide food for thought.  The web site has lots of links to helpful information.  One of those links took me to a list of a handful of tools for survival recommended to those caring for someone with dementia.  I am doing all but one of them — and yes, I am still surviving.  Mary Ann may not be pleased with this sometimes grumpy Caregiver, but we a doing okay.  For those of you who are tracking our days, I will add a paragraph after the quiz.  Here is the quiz:

Quiz: Are You Heading for Caregiver Burnout? By Paula Spencer, senior editor

Last updated: April 22, 2010

Caregiving can bring many positives into your life — but it’s also hard work, physically and emotionally. If you don’t take enough self-care to replenish yourself, then caregiver stress, anxiety, and depression can build.

And that puts you on the path for caregiver burnout, a syndrome of mental, emotional, and physical depletion. “Caregiving requires a certain amount of selflessness, but it’s important for caregivers to know their limits,” says senior medical editor Ken Robbins, a geriatric psychiatrist at the University of Wisconsin who’s also board certified in internal medicine. “Caregivers can become so focused on the person they’re assisting that they neglect their own needs.”

Caregiver burnout interferes with your ability to function. Burnout also raises your risk of chronic depression and other mental and physical ailments, from hypertension and flu to diabetes, stroke, or even premature death. Caregiver burnout is also a leading cause of nursing home placement, when run-down caregivers become too depleted to manage caregiving demands.

“It’s important for caregivers to be aware of this phenomenon and to find ways to either prevent or minimize it when they realize it’s happening,” Robbins says.

What’s your caregiver burnout index? Answer the following 12 questions, add up your score (A = 4 points, B = 3 points, C = 2 points, D = 1 point), and learn lifesaving strategies for managing the unique stress of caregiving.

1. How often do you get a good night’s sleep (seven or more hours)? a. Every day  b. Often  c. Sometimes  d. Seldom or never

2. How often do you keep up with leisure activities that you enjoyed before caregiving? a. Every day  b. Often  c. Sometimes  d. Seldom or never

3. How often do you feel irritable or lose your temper with others? a. Seldom or never  b. Sometimes   c. Often   d. Every day

4. How often do you feel happy? a. Every day  b. Often  c. Sometimes  d. Seldom or never

5. How often do you find it difficult to concentrate? a. Seldom or never  b. Sometimes  c. Often  d. Every day

6. How often do you need a cigarette(s) or more than two cups of coffee to make it through the day? a. Seldom or never  b. Sometimes  c. Often  d. Every day

7. How often do you lack the energy to cook, clean, and take care of everyday basics? a. Seldom or never  b. Sometimes  c. Often  d. Every day

8. How often do you feel hopeless about the future? a. Seldom or never  b. Sometimes  c. Often  d. Every day

9. How often are you able to relax without the use of alcohol or prescription sedatives? a. Every day  b. Often  c. Sometimes  d. Seldom or never

10. How often do you feel overwhelmed by all you have to do? a. Seldom or never  b. Sometimes  c. Often  d. Every day

11. How often has someone criticized your caregiving or suggested you’re burning out? a. Seldom or never  b. Sometimes  c. Often  d. Every day

12. How often do you feel that someone is looking after or caring for you? a. Every day  b. Often  c. Sometimes  d. Seldom or never

How did you score?

This self-test isn’t a scientific or diagnostic measure; it’s meant to help you identify whether your stress level warrants taking steps toward better protecting yourself.

Add up your score. Each A = 4 points, B = 3 points, C = 2 points, D = 1 point.

48-42: Keeping your cool (low burnout risk)

Your heart and head are both in the right place, and your stress-busting reservoirs are full, which helps you to give with grace and good humor. That said, caregiver stress often creeps up without a caregiver realizing it. Protecting your healthful habits is paramount.

What to do: Keep yourself well fueled for caring by making time for yourself every day — at minimum, aim for several five-minute pick-me-ups for caregiver stress. If you’re in a relationship, know that a healthy marriage or other close relationship can be a source of strength; learn how caregiving couples can make it work.

30-41: Feverish (elevated burnout risk)

You’re likely managing caregiver stress reasonably well but falling into a common caregiver trap: Letting yourself sink lower on the daily priority list than is healthy for you. Everyone has an occasional crazy-busy day, but too many of them results in chronic stress — which erodes well-being and places you at risk for depression, colds, and other illnesses.

What to do: Protect your time for self-care by learning seven ways to find more “me” time. On days when you’re feeling stressed, try these five ten-minute pick-me-ups.

18-29: Too hot to handle (high burnout risk)

Your stress level is probably sky-high. You may already be experiencing symptoms of anxiety, depression, compromised immunity, and physical exhaustion that can lead to or complicate chronic diseases such as hypertension, diabetes, heart disease, and chronic depression. It’s critical that you take steps immediately to lower your stress level, ideally through a combination of better self-care, a shared workload, and outlets for your complicated emotions, including talk therapy and support groups.

What to do: In addition to the suggestions in the sections above, learn the five real reasons you’re stressed and how to tame them. Look into respite care options — they’re an important way to give yourself the break you need.

12-17: Toast (already burned out)

It’s a wonder — and a blessing — that you were able to find and take this quiz. You’re running on empty, or is it more like barely running? Although you want to do your best for the person you’re caring for, realize that your own health is at stake — and if you don’t look out for Number One, you won’t be able to help the person or persons in your care.

What to do: You need immediate help. Learn how to tell the difference between the normal stress of caregiving and depression and consult with someone you trust — a doctor, clergyperson, counselor, or therapist, for counseling — and seek out medical assistance. At minimum, you need a physical checkup. You may also benefit from other therapies or from a break from caregiving that’s as short-term as a vacation or as permanent as a relocation of the person in your care.

After she settled, Mary Ann slept well last night, but remained tired today.  I got up in time to get her ready for her Tuesday morning Bible Study.  Even though we remained on course and had plenty of time to get there, she chose not to go today.  I still don’t fully understand why, except that she seemed to be tired all day long. I asked if she meant that she didn’t want to attend any more, but she said it was only today that she didn’t feel like going. She really values the group and seldom misses.

She ate well at all three meals.  She napped for a couple of hours at the most.  She went to bed at a normal time for her.  One of the Hospice Nurses stopped by for the weekly visit.  I was pleased to report that Mary Ann weighed in at 115.5, another pound heavier.  We have been trying to regain some of the weight she lost in recent months.  Since Mary Ann will finish the anti-biotic for her UTI tomorrow, I asked about doing another urine test to be sure this is not a chronic infection.  The nurse said the usual, wait until symptoms occur.  I responded with the challenge that Mary Ann presents no symptoms that differentiate from already ocurring symptoms of her chronic conditions.  I hope the Hospice Doctor will authorize another test some time in the near future to be sure the problem is not a recurring one.  This is another of those times in which the Caregiver has to track medical issues carefully rather than giving away responsibility to anyone else, medical professional or otherwise.

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